5 Ways you Frustrate your Pastor – That he probably won’t tell you about! By Ty Tamasaka
In a way, I now feel free to share what I may not have when I was leading a church as its senior pastor. The purpose of this post is to let you in on a few things that discourages and frustrates your pastor – even if he doesn’t say it!
If frustrates your pastor when…
1 – You are half-hearted in your church attendance. Yes. He notices. Of course there are legitimate reasons to miss church, but a general lack of commitment is something that serves as a major source of frustration of pastors. Tied in with that is when you come to worship services late and leave early. Yes. He notices that too.
2 – You refuse to support your church financially. I’ve heard it said before the pastors are just after people’s money. I’ve been involved with the church for a long time – and I have yet to come across a pastor who has been in ministry for the money. In fact, most pastors I know could make a great deal MORE money doing something other than ministry! Statistics show that an overwhelming majority of church attenders give little (or nothing) to the church. A lack of generosity indicates a lack of gratitude to God and it does serve as a source of frustration when people refuse to contribute financially to the church.
3 – You refuse to accept change. The book of Hebrews says, “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.” Some people think that should be an accurate description of the church too. If there is something guaranteed in any church, it is that change happens. Whether it is a change in furniture, carpet, music, leadership style, or vision, change happens. Pastors are commissioned to recognize where the church is, where the church needs to be, and help take it there. It can be devastating when people refuse to move forward and accept change!
4 – You criticize his leadership behind his back. C’mon now. Pastors are people and people don’t like being criticized behind their backs. You don’t like it when people criticize you behind your back and your pastor gets frustrated when others criticize his leadership behind his back too.
5 – You leave the church without letting anyone know why. It could be that because many people approach church with a consumer mentality, they don’t give it much thought when they leave a church without telling anyone. The church is a family and when a family member suddenly departs, it affects the church family. While it hurts the church. It hurts the pastor – personally – even if he doesn’t say it.
While it may or not be the case, when someone leaves a church without letting anyone know why, the pastor feels a sense of rejection. Although there are times when your season at a church may come to an end, pastors appreciate when people have the courage and courtesy to let someone know what is going on.
Most people don’t intentionally want to hurt or frustrate their pastor. I hope you don’t! I hope this post helps you recognize ways to avoid unintentionally hurting your pastor.
Ty Tamasaka is an author who hold a Master of Arts Degree from Pacific Rim Christian University in Christian Ministry He is a Bible teacher who loves to encourage people to enjoy Jesus’ grace and extend His Kingdom. Ty just released his new book More than a Conqueror: 5 Pathways to Personal Revival.